Yes. Indeed. There was an email. Sent at 6:46pm. Could you please go back and look at last nights post and see what time I called her at (yeah - 6:45!)
I’m so dang ticked.
I think she sincerely forgot. Realized as I called - oops. I won’t deny that she might have composed the email before last night, but it wasn’t SENT until last night at the same time I called her. Ironic? Coincidence? Sickening!

And lets pretend she DID send an email on time. We were in the Ozarks all week. Exactly when did she think we were going to get the email? Monday morning? Still the day of!

Now I understand completely why the “rules” are the way they are.

Irritatingly Simple. That’s all my life seems sometimes.

We had another ordeal with “the mom” again. First, might I ask what the laws are in your state regarding communication with your ex spouse? Is email a suitable method for communicating when or if you want the children?
I got divorced in Texas and was told by both my lawyer and the courts that email was not a reliable nor suitable communication method for contact between both parties regarding custody issues. They gave the reason as being not …hmmm… reliable. How do you know that person is going to check their email that morning. How do you know that a server won’t be down somewhere making it take longer to get the email out to the person, etc. I am in Missouri now and I don’t know if Missouri has the exact same law, but I do know that a friend of mine with two kids just got divorced and was also told by her lawyer that emails don’t hold up in court as a suitable method of communication regarding custody.

So that said. Brings me to last night. Or rather last week. B.mom allows us to leave for our vacation a day earlier, giving up her night with them. Now, before I go on and everyone thinks its a selfless act, it wasn’t. I assure you. She has to drive well over an hour on Tuesday nights to see them. There are frequently times she changes the night or doesn’t come at all. She chose to move that far away several months back. So last Tuesday she communicated with Mike that she would instead like to have them on Monday and would that work? He says yes without checking with me first (he’s not home on Monday - he’s at work!) so I was irritated with him because we did have plans, but they were certainly easily rescheduled. It was more the principle. SO I called b.mom on Tuesday and told her thank you for letting us leave early (I did it to be nice, not because she did us a favor, etc.) and told her that Monday was just fine, and that I would switch our plans to Tuesday, which was easy. “We’ll see you on Monday, I’m sure the kids will be really excited to tell you about our trip.” Final words before I hung up.

So I look at the clock tonight - 6:04pm. Hmm…she seems to be running a few minutes late. She’s usually here at 6:00pm. I tell the kids to get their coats on, get their books together (they go to the library), etc. They are sitting waiting there, again I look at the clock. Now it’s 6:22pm. Hmm… I want to call her, I really do. Especially because B and I are starving and really want to go eat. The three girls waiting for mom are starving, but sometimes when traffic is bad, she doesn’t arrive until 6:20 or so. I give her a little more time and finally at 6:44pm I call Mike. He answers (unbelievably) and is shocked that she isn’t there. Says he knows he told her it was fine, blah blah blah. So now I’m torn and confused. Did the conversation really happen? And lets pretend for a moment that it did not. That Mike dreamed it. I did NOT dream calling her and leaving a message on Tuesday. Where I clearly stated several times that Monday was perfectly fine. Didn’t she think that was weird?

So I call her. She answers. (SHE NEVER ANSWERS - EVER!!) and I thought that meant she might be on her way. Nope. She was very obviously sitting in front of a television set. *sigh* In my opinion she forgot. Instead, she lied. She said that she didn’t remember having that conversation with Mike and insisted that she had said Thursday. So I did the only thing I could do. “Didn’t you think when I said Monday a half dozen times to you on the message that you should call and let us know I had the wrong date?”
Her answer.
“I sent an email.”

An email, that quite interestingly Mike says he never got. (She doesn’t email me!)
So in the morning, when Mike returns home, I plan to have him look and see. I want to see exactly what it says. I’m so damn annoyed.

Try feeding children who are starving when you have to fast cook something because you were not prepared (B and I were going to go eat dinner out). They didn’t eat until 7:30 and then we headed out to the library at 8:00pm. Not my favorite time to leave the house, ya know? Except the library was nice, because it was quiet. I like quiet. Especially when I’m stressed. And now I’m so angry I can’t sleep. UGH!!!

The X’s I mean. Why, oh why must she do this crap all the time? I am such a patient person, and I know that is why I get walked on all the time. I understand life happens, because excuse me, as a full-time mother of five children living in a blender, there is nobody that understands better than I, that life happens. *sigh*

So she calls me Monday night (like 9pm). Yeah…that’s right…ME! (not him). Tells me that Tuesday (her normal night) this week won’t work for her because she is having a tire keep go flat on her car (she has just recently moved more than an hour from our house - so she just comes up for dinner and the library).  So would Wednesday work? Sure, Wednesday is fine I say. Never mind that Brie could have had her other horse back riding lesson TUESDAY night, but it was too late. Never mind that I now had to find a way to entertain five children, rather than just two. It was aggravating, but I am accomodating and I did it with a smile (besides, I hate when they leave, just like to be prepared).

So I get everyone ready and we are waiting at the door watching country music videos on my laptop when the phone rings. hmmm…Mike is at work, one friend is at the pool, another just got home from work and is making dinner for her kiddo’s, my mom doesn’t call in the evenings, so who could possibly be calling my cell phone. Yep, you guessed it. HER.

And guess what? Yes, at 6pm she is telling me that she cannot make it because her tire went flat again on the highway and some stranger fixed it for her and now she has to go back home, so she will see them all on Friday for her weekend. *sigh*

Okay, not usually a problem. Except I was planning on taking my two to a sub shop for dinner, which I nixed cause it costs too much to take them all. So what in the heck do you prepare last minute for dinner? Especially when the entire household but one is on a pasta hiatus!

So we improvised. We are having Chicken Nuggets and Swiss and Bacon Mashed Potatoes. Healthy huh? It just drives me nuts that she has to do this last minute all the time. I would have taken out something frozen if I had known I’d have had the whole bunch. Anyone who knows me knows I don’t mind cooking at all and in fact love it -not so much tonight. *sigh*

Worst part? Mike doesn’t even know yet. Why oh why do I let her get to me? I know it was out of her hands, but still…..

The SHE I am referring to, would be Mike’s ex. I don’t understand why she never answers when either of us call.

Now, background info: Usually, she will call me back - even when Mike calls her. It was amusing for awhile, but now it’s just plain annoying. She isn’t my ex.

I called her this morning to find out if she was taking the girls the entire weekend. Before about a month ago, she was taking them every other Friday to Saturday evening, and Monday’s and Tuesday’s from 6-9pm. Then she moved pretty far away.

So, she dropped her Monday. Takes them Tuesday’s but they usually come home after an hour because there is nothing to do except eat dinner and she doesn’t have a place nearby to take them “home” to. So two weekends ago, she asked if she could change to the entire weekend for that weekend. We agreed, because she had dropped Monday’s and technically, per divorce decree and child custody agreement, she should be having them the entire weekend. She just wasn’t excercising that. Whatever works.

So my oldest STBSD (soon-to-be-step-daughter) asks if mom is taking them the entire weekend. So I thought, wow I hadn’t even considered that she wasn’t, to be honest. So I called her to verify. As usual, got the voicemail. Left message and waited. Well, now she has already picked them up, and never called me back. She was indeed keeping them the whole weekend, but it’s still annoying that somewhere in the past seven hours since I called her, she couldn’t find 60 seconds to call me back and just say yes, so we could be sure to pack accordingly. *sigh*

Anyone else have problems like this?

Interestingly, this is not a problem I have with my ex. When we talk, we deal with each other. I don’t go through his current wife, nor does he go through Mike. And, when I call him, he calls me back if he doesn’t answer, which isn’t often. And when he calls me, I either answer or I call him back. Either way, it’s just not an issue for us.  Not that we don’t have issues - we have TONS. Just not that one. LOL

Post pulled from the other blog, so future blog posts make sense and so we could also discuss Ex’s

Do you have someone in your life, that is apparently so miserable, that they want everyone else to be?

Yeah, me too. He’s my ex husband.

He’s spent the past couple of years since I left him and we got divorced, trying to sabotage the heck out of everything I do. I am not sure why.

My boss recently called me to tell me that he emailed her (and then she requested a phone call with him), saying that I was plagiarizing. Pretty tall accusation, don’t you think?

Jealous much?

I don’t know what the purpose of that is, because he had absolutely NO proof to back it up, and in addition, he knows I can write. Though he never really took the time to read any of it. But still.

Anyway, so that was fun. Thankfully, my boss and I are close, and she knew he was just “blowing smoke” to quote her. We laughed about it, actually. She is a former cop, so she’s seen it all. She knew it was just a “disgruntled ex, trying to cause trouble.” Thank goodness she knows me!

Anyway, it’s always fun when you have these things go on. My boss (ex cop) said I should file a deflamation of character law suit, but I don’t really feel like it. LOL I really don’t. I could care less what he does, and how he lives his life.

Does he have nothing better to do than mess with mine? Because my kids know what he did, they were there when I got the phone call. A little hard to hide at that point. Does he think that is winning him brownie points?

I think not.

Anyway, I think he should just focus on his new wife, her pregnancy and their little boy, and stop worrying about me all the time. It would probably cause a lot less stress in his life. LOL

So what do you all think?