I received a really sweet email the other day, and thought I’d post it here, with my answer.
Dear Nicole,
I have been reading your blogs for more than 2 years now, and was so excited to read when you found your current husband. You changed how you wrote and now you seem much happier.
I have watched and read when you had problems and rants and then when things were great and you were obviously quite proud of your children.
I am in a blended family too, but ours is so much smaller than yours. I have a daughter from a previous marriage, and he has a son from a previous marriage. We do not have custody of his son, and he lives with his mom. Blending is a challenge for us, since Cody doesn’t live with us full time and each time he visits its like a brand new change.
Anyway the reason I wrote was to thank you for your blog. I laugh all the time and smile when I read what you have to say and its nice to see someone go through similar struggles and always put it in perspective.
Why do you do this? Why is it that you share your life story with others? Why do you let us see the ups and downs you go through as a family because I couldn’t do that and what made you decide to start this blog?
Thank you for what you write it helps me heal.
Jennifer
Jennifer,
First, thank you so much for the sweet words, and I am so touched that my blog has impacted you for that long. I thought it was pretty boring at the beginning. LOL So I am guessing you’ve followed me around to all the different URLS and blog sites, as I tested them all out. I’m sure happier on my own server.
Second, why? Why do I do all this?
Although I answered this question, several months back, I thought it best to give a more detailed explanation.
When I decided to move in with my boyfriend and his family, I wasn’t sure what to expect. I wished there was some kind of manual to help me figure it all out. We had strange sibling dynamics going on, as well as Mike and I learning to parent together. Why hadn’t someone made an Idiots Guide to Blended Families?
I went on a quest to gain as much knowledge, from as many different sources as possible. I read books on everything from blended families, single parenting, divorce and step families. I took two online parenting workshops, where I used my new blended family as my subjects. And that was when I discovered Birth Order.
I set out on a mission to educate myself on birth order and how it affected my own to children growing up. Then I applied that knowledge when analyzing our new family.
As I learned new information, gained education and experience with my own blended family, and grew closer in my relationship and walk with God, I felt a strong desire to share it with others. Not to mention, I really wanted a place to vent at times.
This blog stemmed from my original blog started in 2004 as an online journal, as you know Jennifer. I eventually moved to blogspot, then wordpress, and now here on my own site. When I moved to my own site, and saw the following I had, judging more by the personal emails I received, I decided to start the exclusive blended families blog and separate it from my other blogs.
It just seemed natural.
So the reason that I do this, is honestly to help others. To give other frustrated mom’s and dad’s the ability to cope, through their changing families.
I will never claim to be an expert, and the information I give is the same information that you can probably find elsewhere, or its my own personal experience. But no matter what it is, being placed on this blog, is my way of helping others to see that ups and downs occur in all blended families, there is education that can be learned, and that knowledge and patience can be the answer to all questions.
Thank you so much for following me here. Thank you so much for writing and telling me what you think, and it is for you, and others in your situation, that I continue to share my experiences and information.
Your friend,
Nicole
