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Cup of Sorrow…
By Nicole | July 9, 2008
Today is going to be a hard day. My bff (since high school) called me the other day and told me that her father passed away the night before. While it was pretty much expected, for whatever reason it rendered me speechless. I can actually remember making the same call to her our senior year of high school - again expected. And she was there for me.
Dialysis quit working for him about two weeks ago, and it was a matter of time. We’ve known how sick he was for awhile, but I guess I expected her to have more time with him.
So today is the memorial and funeral, and I am looking forward to being her rock today. However, I am full of fear and worrying about how I will do. I have avoided as many funerals as I could since my father died. Of course there were the ones I was expected to attend, and I did - though I tried to detach myself for the day. It never actually worked. I know today will be no different.
She feels at peace with her father’s death, knowing he is without pain and suffering and once again reunited and safe in the arms of our Lord. That gives me comfort for her.
I made her a card, but tried desperately to avoid making it a sympathy type card. She did the same for me during that hard time over a decade and a half ago, and I wanted to do the same for her.
Here it is in all it’s glory. Sorry it isn’t done in my “normal” pretty style of photography - but I wanted to snap a photo before we left. Now, for the hour drive to his hometown. See y’all later.
Oh, and I came to a realization while making this. I need more “word” and “phrase” stamps.
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July 10th, 2008 at 4:24 am
Nicole….Sorry to here about your friend’s loss. It’s always hard to lose a parent, expected or not. I work in a dialysis facility; the families and caregivers of our patients are inspiring. All of those angels are what make me love my job.
The card you created is gorgeous…to say the least. I’ve been racking my brain to come up with an idea for a sympathy card that wouldn’t look like a typical sympathy card, just like you wanted and created. I love it!!
If it would be OK with you, I would like to use your idea so I have some cards to give when needed. This card is SO perfect!!! Job well done!!
Have a blessed week.
Barb in SC
July 13th, 2008 at 6:55 pm
Nicole, I am sorry to hear about your bf loss!
Your card is beautiful and she will appreciate it greatly!
I love this poem and hope it helps in some small way….
I Did Not Die
“Do not stand at my grave and forever weep.
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and forever cry.
I am not there. I did not die.”
July 18th, 2008 at 11:30 am
Nicole, I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s father’s death, and will keep you all in my prayers. Thanks for sharing your beautiful card idea. I recently started a blogspot, and also have become a CTMH consultant in May… http://www.janeehaas.myctmh.com
Keep scrapping and posting, and hugs across the river to you!
Jane in the St Louis area
July 20th, 2008 at 8:53 am
Thanks so much for all the sweet words from all of you. And Tracy that poem is beautiful and I love it, and I plan to email it to her. Thank you so much.
Jane, I’m so happy to meet you. Perhaps one day we will get a chance to meet in person!
July 20th, 2008 at 11:07 am
Nicole, let’s make that happen! I’m just getting my CTMH workshops going, and would love to hear how you “do your business” sometime. Are there any local unit meetings going on? Could I be adopted, since my upline is in my hometown in Ohio? And have you ever attended a regional or national gathering? Keep in touch! (I used to live in St Charles and taught at Immanuel Lutheran School for a while–now I’m south of STL in Arnold, because of DH’s workplace here.) Blessings!